5 Essential Steps To Reduce Your Anxiety

1. Eliminate or reduce your coffee consumption.

I know, it sucks! And many of you don’t like hearing it, but coffee was the number one thing that exacerbated my feelings of anxiety and worry on a daily basis. Reducing my coffee intake to one cup per day or none at all has helped me enormously in feeling calmer, more relaxed, and less antsy and wired. If you like having something warm, try herbal teas.

2. Avoid (excess) sugar and refined, empty carbs.

Sugar and "white carbs" can put you on a constant blood sugar roller coaster. You experience temporary relief, or a “high,” followed by an irritable and anxious low. Sugar is highly addictive, and it can be hard to ditch your sugar habits. However, balancing your blood sugar is key in order to maintain a calm, even, and resilient mindset.

3. Stop comparing yourself to others.

Chronically comparing yourself to other people will keep you from ever feeling good about yourself. What you see on the outside is very misleading and doesn’t accurately reflect other people’s real lives and emotional well-being. Self-comparison is based on comparing your own reality with the idealized illusions you form about someone else’s life. It’s not a fair comparison and won’t lead you to happiness or better decision-making. It’s also easy to slip into victimizing yourself and believing you've been dealt bad cards, which is simply not true and actually brings you further away from feeling empowered to create a life you love. Focus on yourself, your own process, and what feels right for you.

4. Re-evaluate your expectations.

Are you really not worth anything because your thighs touch and your stomach isn’t flat? Are you really a failure because you didn’t get that one job two years ago? Do you really not deserve the attention of someone amazing and caring? Telling yourself that you're only worthy if you're perfect creates expectations that you will never be able to meet. You will chronically feel behind, “not ready,” or not good enough. Nothing creates more anxiety than the feeling that what you really desire is out of your reach.

5. Practice mindfulness.

Mindfulness is based on the art of perceiving and simply experiencing instead of on passing judgment. Being aware of your thoughts and feelings as they are true for you requires both practice and patience. The truth is that most of us aren’t very in tune with what’s going on for us, because our attention is constantly focused on external perceptions.